What makes a Christian marriage distinctive are vows that couples make, promising a depth of relationship that puts the other’s needs before our own and inviting the love of God to support and uphold a couple in their commitment to one another.
Please make contact to complete the initial forms and talk about provisional dates and times. There is rarely any problem about having a service at a date and time to suit you. The priest who will take your service will explain other legal requirements (eg the calling of ‘banns’); and what the Church part of the day will cost (usually a minuscule amount compared with what other plans for the day might involve).
The officiating priest will arrange for you to meet with him/her at intervals, to clarify arrangements and to talk some more together about your hopes and expectations for your marriage.
Shortly before the Wedding Day, there will be a rehearsal for all those involved in the service, designed to put everyone at ease prepare you to experience fully the deep significance of the ceremony itself.
St John's Church is for everyone within the community. We are always glad to receive enquiries from those interested in getting married at St John's. The law allows you to be married here if at least one of you:
Is resident in the parish
Has been regular in worship over at least six months
Was baptized or confirmed here
Has ever lived in the parish for six months or more
Has at any time, regularly attended worship here for six months or more
If one of your parents has lived for six months or more in your lifetime or has regularly attended worship
If your parents or grandparents were baptized or married here
You have been granted a special license, issued only through the Archbishop of Canterbury’s Faculty Office. We can provide appropriate information.
If you have been married before and divorced
We will explore with you whether it would be appropriate for you to marry each other in a Christian ceremony. A decision is made based on three areas of enquiry:
Whether there is now insight into what caused earlier relationships to founder, and a capacity to ‘be different’
Whether continuing responsibilities to children or other dependents are being properly met
These area have to be explored together in confidence before other arrangements can be made.
Civil Partnerships and same-sex marriages
The law does not currently allow for civil partnerships or same-sex marriages to take place in Church of England buildings. However, that doesn't mean we don't want to support you or celebrate with you. Please do get in touch, we are an inclusive church and all are welcome whatever their personal circumstances.
For further information and advice see https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/